A l'esprit actuel

Is the era of marriage being drawn into the distance? Moving further and further into the cloudy curtain of today's smoke. Smoke!...or should I say uncertainty, misunderstanding, fear of not fulfilling our goals, fear of becoming the situation in which we live, stagnating, dying without having done....or seen....or tried!

When it's been too long and we need to change, what do we do? We move things around, we re-decorate, we buy a new fragrance, change our hairstyles, our wives, our homes, our husbands or our jobs. We change!

All change can be good if managed correctly and these changes are usually only truly appreciated through time, after tears, pain, laughter and loss have come and gone.

So what can we do about time?

Nothing!

Scary isn't it? That we can never really know what will happen, or with whom or for how long. How will time make us feel?

I would like to keep hoping that the essence of time hasn't made us into minute maids, for whom living 'for now' has become so common that we can't see past next week. It is still possible to condition the heart and the mind to work in parallel synchronization with time. To follow its sketchy path through the corridors of life.

Written by Elva Parinaud,

5th June 2008

Players come in all shapes and sizes, all styles and strategies. The players that are usually scorned the most are those who think they are, but do the worst job of, working 'undercover'. So they go about their covert lives dragging behind them a hundred different scents - perfume, the coffee house, their own cologne (which has only recently begun to smell so strong), more perfume, the Thai restaurant and did I mention......perfume? The impact they have upon their partner's lives is, as usual, devastating, but with a touch of 'I always knew something was wrong' This feeling facilitates the 'getting over him' process generally because it enhances the 'I hate him' stage which is the most productive for many.

The players that should be feared the most are those who play their game so well that they seem genuine for too long before the cracks start to show. The ones who make you ask yourself 100 questions before you see what is and has always been, obvious. For these players to be effective there needs to be a certain degree of self-belief on their part which is the reason for our numerous questions. We usually see it before they do and often find ourselves contradicting the players denial. Why is it so obvious to us? Because the simple things like manners, respect, courtesy and compassion are no longer present. Consequently, in our attempts to preserve our self-respect and self-worth we draw back the curtains to reveal, as plain as day.........the game.

Written by Elva Parinaud
29/03/2008

Connaissez- vous l’amour nuageux

Des mains tendues fouillant dans le noir,

Les battements de cœur dans des corps chaleureux,

Noyaient dans l’incompréhension,

Des envies de vivre normalement

Un lien incassable, mais tellement loin

Un silence, si grand que la mer

Besoin de parler, mieux de se taire

Les chemins continuent, un espoir sous-entendu

Mais une belle rencontre

Serait-elle perdue ? 

Ecrit par Elva Parinaud
27/03/2008